Here goes nothing…

 “Openness may not completely disarm prejudice, but it’s a good place to start.”–Jason Collins, first openly gay athlete in U.S. pro sports

I am a lesbian, this is a blog about lesbian and some straight people and things, mainly two lesbians who started a family.

Now that we have cleared the air let’s begin. I have written and rewritten this first post many, many times. It’s not easy to sit and write about yourself and then realize the amount of shit you will receive for being just that. I wanted to start this blog because the whole two lesbians starting a family is really difficult to figure out, like ridiculously difficult. The process of just figuring out Step 1 was like trying to navigate your city in 2018 with a map that was hand drawn in 1937. Once we started though it wasn’t easy sailing from there on, it was one of the most confusing journeys all the way until we heard that first cry from our little girl. But that is why this is important to get out there. The journey it took to create the beautiful family I have took time and confusion and science and love, and I think it’s pretty freaking awesome. Baby Lesbians, there is hope, you can show this to your parents when they inevitably cry “I’ll never be a grandparent,” give them hope and understanding that it can happen, it happens EVERY SINGLE DAY!!

I am so fortunate that I found my person, she has helped me become the adult I am; literally, we’ve been together since I was 19 years old. Because of her I have the most beautiful, amazing daughter who we are watching grow and with that watching our relationship grow as well. If you ever want to really test your relationship, have a kid. I’m not even kidding, they are blessings, but damn they make you look at your spouse in a whole different way. Hell, it makes every relationship you have change and evolve, for me, I’m glad I get to say it’s all been for the better.

Through this blog I will share our life, past, present, and future. I hope that I can help people who were in our shoes not too long ago so that starting that family and making that baby is something that can be done with ease. I hope that those baby lesbians and gays out there at 13 questioning if their lives are worth living because of the fear of being their authentic selves see this and realize that it is ok and that the dream of finding love and having a family can happen. Lastly, I am an open book (though there are still a couple chapters that are in progress) so ask me anything. Let me know your fears, experiences, and life stories.